My Retirement Book: Self-doubt crept in.

face to face you are your biggest obstacle

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I was probably a little more forgiving to myself during that first year of retirement, but extra discretionary time often leads to more introspection, or an equivalent of what this Huffington Post piece refers to as ‘sensemaking’.

This article highlights research by the University of Cincinnati’s Heather Vough and colleagues who identified a list of the six most common career-ending narratives, including the three most challenging to a retiree’s self-worth:

  • Being discarded
  • Becoming disillusioned
  • Having an epiphany

I experienced a mix of these three and so my first year, while at times leisurely, was more marked by a juggling act of highs and lows and doubts and revelations.

My challenge, and I would guess that of plenty of other retirees, was to write a new script.

More on that in a later post.

Take the time to read the HuffPost piece. I’m betting there will be a realization or two out there if you identify your retirement narrative according to the article’s list.


Photo-a-day 14: Vary your quiet times.

 

buddy and tim reduced

Sometimes, you read. Sometimes, you watch a thoughtful TV show [that DVR lets you race past the annoying ads]. Sometimes it’s music and closed eyes.

And sometimes, a loved one tracks you down.

It all works.

Here is a little more insight on quiet time for retirees.


I’m working on a short book about lessons and realizations during my first year of retirement.


If you’re interested in this and/or
and a fun [in development] community site for retirees, just add the information below.

 

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My weekend of retirement…left to chance–Round 3

Here is my itinerary for the weekend…

October 12-14 copy

Do Something Dice.

Roll for your next adventure.

According to this roll of the dice, over the next two days**, I should aim to:

  1. Visit a museum.
  2. Dessert. I can live with that.
  3. Running. [Perfect. We just adopted an Aussie Shepherd who seems to prefer a higher gear than we’re used to.
  4. Comedy [Time to pull out Dave or Ghostbusters.

How did I do last weekend? Grade: D

  1. The whole weekend was redirected to adopting and acclimating Buddy the Aussie Shepherd.


**I actually count Friday afternoon as the beginning of each retirement weekend.

My retirement weekend itinerary

Here is my itinerary for the weekend…

colored dice with images signifying various activities
This is weekend two of letting the dice decide my fate.

Last week, I started posting photos of what my Do Something Dice suggested I do for fun during the upcoming weekend.

According to this roll of the dice, over the next 2+ days, I should aim to:

  1. Attend a live sporting event.
  2. Go out to see a movie. In my book, Netflix doesn’t count.
  3. Workout at a gym. [Sorry, the garage with my exerbike and resistance bands is my ‘gym’.]
  4. Dine at a fancy restaurant.

I’m most interested in our choice of restaurants and which movie we will choose to see. It’s been years since we went to the local cinema.



**I actually count Friday afternoon as the beginning of each retirement weekend.

My weekend of retirement…left to chance–Round 2

Here is my itinerary for the weekend…

October 5-7 weekend

Do Something Dice.

Roll for your next adventure.

According to this roll of the dice, over the next two days**, I should aim to:

  1. Go to a sporting event. [Maybe I’ll stop for five minutes at a high school soccer game en route to our fancy restaurant–die #4.]
  2. Go out to a movie. [Netflix at home doesn’t count. Will probably see what’s at the Darkside Cinema.]
  3. Go to a fitness club. [Sorry, not going to join one just because some silly wooden cube is telling me to. My garage works just fine, and for less cash, as a fitness club, though I haven’t yet installed my juice bar or sauna…]
  4. Fancy restaurant. Hmmmm…Taco Vino [tonight’s plan] doesn’t quite qualify. Maybe I’ll order their gourmet plate [if they have one].

How did I do last weekend? Grade: D

  1. Go running. [How about walk and waddle?]
  2. Visit a museum. [I looked up the best online museums to visit. Yes, it’s cheating. But I didn’t get to those either.]
  3. Listen to live music. [Meant to find some downtown buskers, though Imagine Coffee has someone almost every night. Will try that again.]
  4. Order or make pizza. [I made a Serbian flatbread–lepinja–that served quite capably as a pizza. 

 



**I actually count Friday afternoon as the beginning of each retirement weekend.